A lot of people strive all their lives to achieve certain goals, but did you ever stop to think about what that really means for you? What are you ultimately trying to do and what is your purpose for being here on planet earth?
I’m sure we’ve all asked this question to ourselves before. The long and short of it comes down to personal values. If you image your motivation like a sine wave and the bottom of the wave is the lowest point of a goal and the top is the achievement of a goal, then you can see that everytime you aim for something and achieve it, your motivation drops off again and wonder what to do next.
All your goals are there only to satisfy the higher positive intention which is the fulfilment of your core values.
Sit down one day and ask yourself, what is important to you in your life. What is it you value and then ask yourself why. Within these reasons why you value something, some examples of could be ideas like; happiness; challenge; success; family; love; etc, you’ll often hear how it is you represent yourself.
Look out for the following 3 thing to identify why you value something, and realise that these 3 things are disempowering and should be removed as reasons for valuing that thing. Instead, replace it with all the positive reason why you should value such a thing.
The three flags are:
- Negation – negative reasons or ideas
- Necessity – a state of need, dependent on outcome
- Comparatives – comparing where you’d like to be, to the past, or to other people.
Example, I value Wealth.
Possible reason: I value wealth because I was taught in the past that it is hard to come by and my parents had to struggle, so now I must create more wealth in my life to have a happy life.
Flags: this statement has a comparison to the past as well as a comparison to parents in the past. There is also a necessity in the use of the word “must”.
Possible reason: I value wealth because it will allow me more opportunities to create happiness for myself and for my family. It means that we can really live our dreams and fulfil our ultimate goals.
This statement is fully empowering, embracing all that is positive and good about why you should value wealth.
So there’s a quick example. See how you fare with this little exercise. It might provide you with some insight into yourself and might even give you clarity on what you are trying to achieve in your life.
Once you’ve realised all your values, it’s time to align them with your goals. When you do this, you’ll create massive forward momentum in your life to succeed and really live out your dreams.
Listen to this video where Steve Jobs talks about his core values.
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